学习心理学的理由之一

学习心理学的理由之一
<本译文来自长发乱舞的翻译博客>
2007-9-4

One reason for studying psychology is to help you deal with your children.
Perhaps your daughter refuses to go to bed when you want her to and bursts into tears at the least mention of ″light out″.A little knowledge of psychology will come in handy. Offer her a choice of staying up until 7∶30 with you or going upstairs and playing until 8∶00.Since she gets to make the choice, she does not feel so powerless and will not therefore resist.
Psychology is also useful in rewarding a child for a job well done. Instead of telling your 10-year-old son what a good boy he is when he makes his own bed, tell him how neat it looks, how happy you are to see it, and how proud of him you are for doing it by himself. The psychology book will tell you that being a good boy is much harder to live up than doing one job well.
学习心理学的理由之一是帮助你处理你的孩子们的问题。也许，你想让女儿上床睡觉时，她却不想上床睡觉，并且当你轻轻提及“关灯”时，她难过地哭出了眼泪。心理学小知识将助你轻松化解此事。给她选择的机会：要么和你一起呆到7：30，要么自己上楼玩到8：00。由于她自己同意进行选择，就不会有非常无助的感觉，也不会因此产生抗拒。
心理学还可以助你在孩子很好完成工作后进行恰当的奖励。在你十岁的儿子把自己的床铺整理好后，不要告诉他他是一个多么乖的孩子，而应告诉他床看起来多么整洁，看到这些你多么开心，以及你多么为他感到自豪，因为他自己完成了这件事。心理学书籍会告诉你，背负“做一个乖孩子”的重负去生活，远比做好一项工作困难地多。